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3 Habits That Have Taught Me To Let Go Of The Opinion Of Others
And that encouraged my self-esteem
I grew up in a very large family, so for the first 18 years of my life I’ve always found it extremely difficult to figure out how to make my voice heard because the competition was great and often even fierce. As the second of five siblings, getting a bit of attention was extremely difficult because from the firstborn you always expect some mess so the energies of the family are concentrated in the attempt not to throw away his life and for the last ones it is more or less the same because they are the youngest and we know that they need constant attention and care, even when they grown up and should be independent.
So when it happened that it was my turn, for a little attention I ended up transforming myself into something that was not totally me, it was a projection of what the family members expected from me and I indulged their expectations by changing my feelings, canceling myself.
In order to have the respect and attention of my parents, I said and did what I believed would make them happy. As I got older, and a teenager, I transferred these habits onto friends and boyfriends, becoming what they wanted me to be. All of this in a short time led me to be a very empty person in appearance, completely moldable according to the…
